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Hello ladies I'm back and I do apologize for the delay for all my daily readers! Today I wanted to
touch on the topic of dating in 2007. It can be a wonderful experience or it can be a very frustrating thing! So many men
are are just completely oblivious as to knowing how to really love and show a woman the affection she needs. How sad is that?
Don't get me wrong I am not speaking on every man out there but really, it is the majority. Dating is not what it used to
be. There was a time when a man would come and ring your doorbell and walk you to the car and open your car door to seat you,
pull your chair out while treating you to a lovely evening of dinner and then take his ass home! Women should not feel as
though we owe you anything just because you take us out for a damn meal and if we're lucky a movie! Luckily I have only encountered
that type of man a couple times in my life! To the young lady who requested this topic, honey don't think that you owe any
man anything just because he offered to take you out! Don't be lead to do anything that you are not comfortable doing. And
if that's something you want to do then hey, more power to you but don't feel obligated to do so. We have a choice in how,
what and when we want to take care of that need and NO one should feel they are obligated to do something in return for seme
guy who asked YOU out on a date. If you are looking for someone to tell you it's okay, don't wait for that. You need to do
what you feel is right. Take care and please, if you do decide to have sex; make sure you protect yourselve because nine time
out of ten, he's been doing this for a while! Love life!
What should I do if I feel unappreciated in my relationship?
First off, you should talk to your man about how you are feeling. If he doesn't want to understand
how you are feeling and makes no attempt to rectify the situation, then you should contemplate moving on. If you are in a
relationship that drains you emotionally and physically then you should make a positive change that works for you. Good luck
and take care!
how do you let go and move on when you're the one that opened that door
never put yourself in a position that's going to cause you to break your own heart! We as women always
say that in the begining of a relationship, we give our men the "TALK". We advise them that if they are not into having long
term relationships or later learn that they want to do something different to just let us know! So, when the realationship
gets a little rough why is it that you want to run to someone else; meaning another man, to lean on, to talk to? Then you
ask these qusetions about moving on. To be honest there is no way to do so unless you sit down and talk to that man that you
have fallen for. Because as long as you hold those feelings for him, you will not be able to fuilly commit yourself to your
current relationship. And, if tha's okay with you then, you need to let your man know, that things have changed. There
is nothing worse than one person in the relaitonship whose feelings have changed but continue to hold on to the other person
for safety! Move on or fix it. Good luck!
Should you continue on with your relationship even though you can't be faithful?
If you feel as though you can't be faithful to your partner, you should at least be honest with
that person and give them the decision if they want to continue to be in a realtionship with you. You should also look into
talking with someone to find out why you can't commit yourself to one person. How can you honestly say that you love someone
if you commit acts that you know will hurt them and the fact that you continue to do it, shows that the only person you care
about is yourself. Take Care and feel free to leave comments!
How do you know when it's over?
It depends on the length of time you've been with your lover. There are several signs
that tell you when it's over. The number one sign is, when the feelings are not the same any longer. If you no longer hold
the same amount of affection and desire for that person because things have taken a change for the worst. If you are arguing
most of the time when you're together instead of just being in love. If you entertain the thought of living without that person.
With all these things being said, there is no way that you would have these type of feelings if this is truly who you want
to be with. You may need to have a sit down and discuss your feelings with your lover if you are willing to fight for your
relationship. And maybe you don't want to fight for it, then just let it go! Good luck
How do you let go of a past love and move on?
Sometimes we find that letting go can be the hardest thing to do. We love so hard and we become
so comfrotable that we hold on to things that are no longer there. In order to move on and maintain a stable and happy
relationship we have to cut our loose ends and learn that some of the things that we've gone through is a lesson that we must
learn in life. if you are in a relationship with another but your heart is still with your last, then there are some things
that you and your ex need to seriously sit down and talk about. Closing the chapter to a part in your life will make it so
much easier to let go. But, until you do, there is no way you will be able to maintain a relationship. You have to be fully
open accept the love of another.
Will having a baby help with relationship problems?
Okay, this is something that many women get misconstrued. A baby is not going to help much less
fix problems that you and your man are going through. You will only bring a defenseless baby into this world to listen and
see you and your man fight! This is something that we must know, a baby cannot and will not fix your problems. We must sit
down like adults and talk throught the situations that we are facing. If you cannot come to an agreement on the problems
then you should stick your chest out and face the fact that if the same things are happening over and over you may need to
walk away from the problem!
Is it Okay for your man to make sexual jokes to other women?
Obviously this makes you uncomfortable. If this is the case you need to sit down with your
man and tell him how it makes you feel when he does this. If he is into you then he will take your feeling into consideration
and show you some respect by not doing this. You will see if he truly cares about you with the decision he makes to either
stop or continue on with this behavior. Good Luck!
Is it safe to date a guy if he is bisexual?
If you feel that this is a bit risque, by all means don't do it! The rise of HIV/AIDS don't
not only exist in gay couples. You shouldn't get into amything that is uncomfortable for you. If you have to ask if it's safe
to date someone like this it shows that you have doubts and if you have doubts you are not only going to stress yourself out
thinking of the worse but you are going to make your signifigant other feel uncomfortable. Just be honest with yourself and
don't do anything that you feel is wrong for you. Good luck and take care!
When your lover tells you he/she is no longer into you, what should you do?
Okay, if someone tells you that you are no longer what they want, let them go. Many people make
the mistake in thinking they can make someone love them or care about them. This can never happen, it has to be inside that
person's heart and that can not be manufactured. Don't push anyone into being with you. You can try and be desirable and all
that but if that person is not attracted to you then he/she is just not attracted to you! Take care
When is it too soon to consider marriage?
I have had so many people ask this question. I always say you need to make sure that you
get to know someone completely before making a committiment that is so drastic. Many people often
hide their true self revelaing it later and you can save yourself the agony and pain by just taking the time to get to know
the person. If you would like to add to this or state your opinion against this theory please leave your input in any section
of the website. Take care!
Why do we settle with Mr.Right now instead of Mr. Right?
Troughout our lives, we have encountered so many negative things in a relationship that it over
rides the positive leaving us to believe that maybe there is not much more out there besides what we know. We have to think,
do we love ourselves? Do we resepect ourselves? Don't let anyone make your self esteem so low that you don't look for the
best in order to be happy!
Why do most women prefer to date married men?
Sometimes women prefer to date men that are attached in other relationships because
they themselves don't want to be in a relationship. Some women don't want the headache, heartache or responsibilities in order
to have a mate. Some women would prefer to live alone and just have someone on the side to call when they have needs to be
fulfilled.
Is it possible to be friends with an ex lover?
If you have reached a mutual understanding that it is only a friendship and nothing more, then
yes it's possible. But, if you know that the other person still had feelings you are only setting yourself and that person
up for more heartache and no one wants or needs that. Just make sure that you both are emotinally ready to endure the possiblity
of seeing the other move on to other relationships becasue let's face it, that comes along with friendship! Good luck
What is the best way to get over a relationship?
Well, first of all it is never easy, especially if you loved the person. You first need
to accept that the relationship is over. You have to realize that life does not stop because you and your signifigant other
are over. You need to love yourself and understand that if it was meant to be you would be with that person. Maybe you were
only blessed to be with that person to learn something new in love or life. Don't beat yourself up, accept it and move on.
You will eventually find the right person when the time is right!
why is it so hard to give or be loved in relationships today?
what is it about relationships today? Why are they so hard to maintain happiness? is it insecurities?
is it wounds from past pains? We continue to enter these relationships with high hopes and thoughts of one day marrying, but
is it possible? do men or even women truly want to be in a committed marriage? Can we be faithful and honest with our lovers?
Can we give them all the love they deserve and want? Are we capable of giving our all to someone, even after we've been hurt
and wronged by our past lovers? Tell me your thoughts.
Can you truly find love online?
I personally wouldn't recommend that anyone man/woman look for love on the internet. There are
so many people out there with the intent to cause pain mentally and physically upon unsuspecting prey. Be very careful if
you are doing this! Keep in mind that you may not the only person that they are talking to on a daily basis. Keep an open
mind to see little clues in the person's emails, in how they say things or tell you to do things. Make sure this person doesn't
have an aggressive personality or is way too insecure. You can gather all this information by truly reading emails, read what's
there not what you want to be there. Take care!
How do you let go of a painful past?
first, you have to admit it within yourself that you are truly hurting from being wronged
in anyway. Second, you must realize that in order for you to have a loving functional realtionship with someone else you can
not expect them to know how you feel about certain things. Let it be known and I mean let them know exactly how you feel,
none of the brief descriptions because how will they know how to handle situations that may affect your realtionship. You
have to be willing to open up and talk to your lover about how you feel, no one can read minds. Be direct and be honest with
yourself and your lover. Time heals all wounds but if you just shut down and not deal with your issues, your wounds will never
heal! Take care.
How do you deal with your lover having a friend of the opposite sex?
If your spouse developed a bond with someone of the opposite sex before you and he got together
then you accepted that friendship. But, if your lover began a "friendship" after you were already in a relationship, keep
a watchful eye. And don't be afraid to tell your lover if that friendship makes you uncomfortable. If your man can never talk
to his friend when he is around you, they may be more than just friends. If your man can only hang out with her alone without
you included, they may be more than just friends. Just be careful ladies because let's face it, sex is way too dangerous with
all the diseases out there to put your life on the line for someone who does not love or respect you! Love and take care of
yourselves ladies! love life.
What should you do if your man's best guy friend was gay?
Tough question! You have to take your man's past into consideration. Has he ever dibbled dabbled
on the gay scene before? Or has he ever given you a reason to believe he has or is having sexual gay thoughts? You can't just
jump to conclusions that your man is gay or bisexual from the company he keeps but if it leads you to have doubts in your
mind; challenge him. Tell him what you are thinking because if not; it will only lead you to sleepness nights, poor work habits
and stressful days! As the old saying goes, when in doubt get out! If you would like to comment or tell your story, please
leave your input below. And as always ladies love yourselves.
If your lover has a child outside of your relationship and you decide to stay with him,
do you have the right to forbid him from seeing his child?
When you make the decision to stay with your lover after he concieved his child you forgave
him. If you are uncomfortable with your man conversing and being a father to his child, you should leave. The child is not
at fault. What you are uncomfortable with is accepting the fact that your man now has a lifetime attachment with the woman
that cheated on you with. And once you loose your trust in your relationship you have lost everything. If you can no longer
trust your man, the decision lies within you to continue on. But, no matter what your man tells you, the doubts that you have
adopted will always remain no matter if he is telling a lie or being totally honest.You will only make yourself miserable
by staying.
What should you do when the fire stops burning in your relationship?
The key to a successful realtionship does not lie in sex alone! You have
to keep communication number one and try to preserve a healthy friendship with your lover. As far as keeping things spicy,
try new things as long as you and your lover are confortable with the new ideas and positions. Remember the way that you won
your lover's heart you must keep doing that to keep your lover's heart. If you would like to add to this or tell your story
please leave your input below. Thanks for visiting LADIES DISH!
What do you do when the one you love doesn't love you back?
There is no way to be in love all by yourself. Many people think that if they
carry the load things will work themselve out. Ladies, this does not work, never have never will; sorry to say. If you are
experiencing this dilemma, you may as well make a change in your life before it becomes so consuming that you cause yourself
more heartache than needed.
Is it possible to find genuine love in 2006?
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